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Popular: The Power of Likability in a Status-Obsessed World

Popular: The Power of Likability in a Status-Obsessed World

作者 : Mitch Prinstein

出版社 : VIKING

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定價 : NT 599

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我們的聲望與名聲,受歡迎的程度如何影響我們的成功、伴侶關係,以及人生的幸福?為什麼我們總不想成為那個最受歡迎的人?

儘管受歡迎意味著人生的成功與快樂,但小心不要選錯受歡迎的型態,否則受到的傷害將大於你所受到歡迎的程度!

「Prinstein意圖了解”受歡迎”這個字眼;重新思考我們的社會迷戀人氣的程度;並且顯示我們想要得到社會的認可將如何影響我們的選擇…。這本高度可讀的研究,成功地結合了科學與軼聞,強力推薦給公立圖書館。」-《圖書館期刊》(Library Journal)星級評論

不管你年紀多大,”受歡迎”這個字眼總是會馬上把你拉回到青少年時期。我們總是很容易地記起當時的小圈圈,中學時期的權勢等級,誰是最受歡迎與最不受歡迎的人,我們甚至記得自己在學時期的社會位階,與當時位階相連的情感持續到數十年之後,受不受歡迎或許是一個非常好的緣由。

本書檢視了”受歡迎程度”在我們成長過程中扮演的關鍵角色,最終,它還影響了我們現今的快樂與成功。年輕時的人氣指數,將持續在我們現在的每一場商業會議、社交聚會、私人關係甚至教養孩子當中發揮作用。它甚至以令人驚訝且我們從未察覺的方式,影響我們的DNA、健康與壽命。在人生早期階段受到歡迎,比兒童智力、家庭背景或者之前的心理學議題,更能預測成人後的我們是否成功與快樂。

然而,並非最受歡迎的人有最好的發展,因為受歡迎不只有一種型態,而且有一些人還搞錯了方向。兒童時期想討喜的習性,有可能終身受用;但是青少年時期,一種新型態的受歡迎出現了,我們突然開始在意周遭情況、權力、影響力與惡名,研究顯示,這種型態的受歡迎,將比我們所理解的還要傷害更深。

人類天生就有想要受他人注目的社會衝動,但是我們必須學習以有益且讓人滿意的方式來掌控這樣的衝動。本書根據最新的心理學與神經科學研究,幫助我們為自己與孩子作出最睿智的選擇,來追求更有意義、讓人滿足且有所回報的關係。


A leading psychologist examines how our popularity affects our success, our relationships, and our happiness—and why we don’t always want to be the most popular


No matter how old you are, there’s a good chance that the word “popular” immediately transports you back to your teenage years. Most of us can easily recall the adolescent social cliques, the high school pecking order, and which of our peers stood out as the most or the least popular teens we knew. Even as adults we all still remember exactly where we stood in the high school social hierarchy, and the powerful emotions associated with our status persist decades later. This may be for good reason.

Popular examines why popularity plays such a key role in our development and, ultimately, how it still influences our happiness and success today. In many ways—some even beyond our conscious awareness—those old dynamics of our youth continue to play out in every business meeting, every social gathering, in our personal relationships, and even how we raise our children. Our popularity even affects our DNA, our health, and our mortality in fascinating ways we never previously realized. More than childhood intelligence, family background, or prior psychological issues, research indicates that it’s how popular we were in our early years that predicts how successful and how happy we grow up to be.

But it’s not always the conventionally popular people who fare the best, for the simple reason that there is more than one type of popularity—and many of us still long for the wrong one. As children, we strive to be likable, which can offer real benefits not only on the playground but throughout our lives. In adolescence, though, a new form of popularity emerges, and we suddenly begin to care about status, power, influence, and notoriety—research indicates that this type of popularity hurts us more than we realize.

Realistically, we can’t ignore our natural human social impulses to be included and well-regarded by others, but we can learn how to manage those impulses in beneficial and gratifying ways. Popular relies on the latest research in psychology and neuroscience to help us make the wisest choices for ourselves and for our children, so we may all pursue more meaningful, satisfying, and rewarding relationships.
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作者介紹
Mitch Prinstein是北卡羅來納大學心理學教授兼臨床心理主任,他的研究散見於《紐約時報》、《華爾街日報》、《洛杉磯時報》以及CNN等媒體。
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